“And the Day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

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Happy Veterans Day Dad!!!
Thank you for the gift of being my father. Today I am remembering fondly having the gift of traveling to many of the Military Schools you attended in the summer and learning the history America along the way. I remember having dinners at Officer clubs when other soldiers would politely ask Dad if they could ask me to dance. And how proud I was of dad being saluted by so many other soldiers. I am sure you to are thinking of dad today and the wonderful man he was. I will always remember the touch of my father’s hand proudly wearing his military Command and General Staff ring.
Thank you for the respect and love for our Country and  Military that you instilled in me.

While this photo states that a “Childs Behavior is an Iceberg” , as adults we all to often adopt tendency to hide our feelings and not communicate in our relationships of life.

Like an iceberg, the bulk of behavior’s “mass” is found below the surface; it is what gives rise to the part that is visible. Behavior is triggered from feelings, which stem from the more deeply rooted needs of a person. These are not needs like, “I need food, or I need a new pair of shoes. Basic human needs consist of things like autonomy, safety, security, trust, empathy, understanding, adequate sleep and nutrition, a sense of belonging and inclusion, competency, respect, and love.

When one’s basic needs are met, we feel satisfied, connected, secure, confident. The behavior looks “good.”

If one’s needs are not met, we may feel insecure, afraid, angry, or detached. The behavior that shows, then, looks to be what we might call “unacceptable” as an individual reaches out to try to satisfy these unmet needs.  Our needs are valid; our  feelings are valid. But often we are misguided in our attempts to rectify them.

What we must do in relationship is, in the face of misunderstanding, remember that 90% of what is going on is below the surface. We must look deep to ensure that we are seeing and feeling the source of our behavior and owning responsibility for our expressing our feelings and stating our needs.